We always heard from people that I will stand by you. No matter whatever the circumstance or wherever you go, whatever you do. I will stand by you and support you from each phase of life. I know you have heard this multiple times even you also have promised to the people, friends, and relatives.
But the question is that do people stand by us. Do we stand by them in every situation with whom we promised? And why we need someone to stand by us. Are not we capable that much so we can stand by oneself? So let’s start –
I will stand by you | Fake promises
I will start it with my own experience and will talk about everyone, friends, relatives, loved ones, siblings. People also have promised me that they will support me in everything, everywhere.
I also thought that I have someone on my side always, who will support me, but the reality is different. Whenever I need nobody was there to stand by me, guide me, to ask what am I feeling, what am I doing, how am I doing?
Once in a while, when I remember my journey throughout, no one was there whenever I needed the most. I know nobody will be.
Especially the people who promised to be, those are never the one who never does actually. And this hurt us most because expectations Hurt almost anything else in the world. Indeed, You can only get hurt by those people with whom you have expected the most.
Whatever I am writing, maybe it’s harsh, and it can hurt people, people who are connected with me directly or indirectly. Secret thought is the place where you can write about anything that happens.
Whenever I cried, I wipe my tears on my own, whenever I get depressed I am the one who came out from that situation,
If I was struggling and if I will struggle I am the only one who will get hold of me.
And the best part the people with whom we expect the support those are the only ones who never stand by us. I know maybe this happens with you as well.
I will stand by you | Need to stop pretending
Then what’s the solution –
First, we also need to stop saying that I will stand by you if we do not mean this. There is no need for pretending.
Why do we promise if we can’t keep it?
If we will not commit anything to anyone then people will not expect anything in return. They will learn by themselves how to get up after falling. They will become the best version of themself.
What the Solution
So everyone needs to understand that academic education and degree not sufficient because all need to learn how to deal with loneliness, anxiety, struggle. Worldwide, 1 in 13 suffering from anxiety.
This ratio says a lot we always get depends on others for our happiness and to get the solution to every problem. We need to learn how to fights with all the things.
Because along the body, we need to fit our minds too.so I think we all need to make ourselves comfortable with ourselves Who we are.
Believe me, if you start caring on your own, people will start to do it for you and, if you start loving yourself, people will start loving you. First, we need to accept ourselves then only we can except to others.
Personal experience
There are a lot of people who promised me and that they will help me throughout the journey. They will support me if I do something. You know what no one was there when I need someone. I get myself up when I fall.
Alone, I have done all the struggle and you know what in my whole journey the most unexpected person helps me and get hold of me.
Even when I start my blog, I thought that people who know me, my people will help me support me but actually, nobody is there. Not a single one but the people with them I never expected anything they start supporting and motivating me.
And I expected a helping hand from my people and, there is no shame in that, But now I do not give a damn. Who are with me, who are not because I know if I am with myself with all the strength then nobody is going to stop me? And nobody can do.
Advice
I always give advice but now I want to hear from you what you think so, share your advice in the comment section.
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I do believe that whatever you stated it’s damn genuine. People nowadays fake promises coz they want your support it’s not they want to assist you in difficult times. So DEAL WITH YOUR PROBLEM YOURSELF ain’t no way.
Yes, you are right akshita.
We become uncomfortable when someone breaks their promise or we break ours. But that always brings change in one and the one must be confident, patient and humble to accept that change. 🙂
Yes, you are absolutely right.
I think u r ryt .. expectation ruined our life don’t expect from anyone coz no one stand for you when you need them and i think this is our life so we have to stand for us when you will fall then u will learn. Personally i expect from people that they will stand for me but now i understood you r the one who can change ur life and who destroy your life … stand for yourself.
Great, if you got it