WHY DOES A SON OR A DAUGHTER TAKE THEIR PARENTS FOR GRANTED AFTER A CERTAIN AGE? WHY DO THEY HAVE TO HAVE A SECOND THOUGHT FOR THEM TO DISCUSS THEIR PERSONAL DECISION WITH PARENTS BEFORE THEY INTEND TO TAKE IT? WHY ISN’T NECESSARY IN SOME WAYS FOR THE CHILDREN TO TEACH THEIR PARENTS TODAY’S WAY OF LIVING?
Like the above-said questions, a lot more pop up into the mind when we see our family or when we are told by one of our peers or we just get to hear the conversation around our vicinity between the parents and the lads nowadays where they do not seem to talk gently but the children appear to yell at their parents more often either for them being orthodox or having old fashion mentality in today’s world which tends to raise conflict into the families. This isn’t a story or a flick or any web series which is a binge-watch these days. This is a relevant portion of most of our family’s life in this modern era which is, though, silent around us but can be perceived. This is what I found out the most imperative subject to write on and should be pondered over. This short article might not substantiate anything as it is just an expression of love and gratitude but none of us should ignore this.
It is true to say that parents don’t only grow up their child but they also get older themselves. As a child born, a lot of things come in. The born of a child is the resurrection of parents for them who not only continue their journey merely as husband and wife anymore but also adopt a new title of being called as “Parents”. No such thing has ever defined the term “Parents”. One may self define it. Be that as it may, in every definition, each letter stands for something which the parents ensure to provide their children such as Protection, Assurance, Relief, Enjoyment, Nurturing, Time and Safety, and all such thing facilitate the child to live with ease.
Amid the life-cycle, parents take care the children with due care and caution, live sleepless nights in order to give them full comfort, cherish them with moments full of Love, Happiness, Wonders & Surprises, Be the pillars throughout their journey of success and failures. They sacrifice and suppress their wishes and desires for their child’s necessity without considering the cost they are going to burden with, no matter whether they are going to make it again or not as time lapses but they do it without any resent or deficiency. They have a major contribution to the development and raise their child.
As a whole, there is no parameter of measuring the right or wrong way of raising the Child. Our parents try to make things possible for us as far as they could make it strenuously no matter what the predicaments are and the same can not be valued and paid back. But when they are old, when they need their children the most, when only children are their only resort, why children knowingly avoid them as if they simper to their relatives? Why children let their parents suffer pain? Why the children do become so reluctant to the activities of their parent’s interest and can’t enjoy with the same love and compassion as the parents do for them? Why do the parents have to beseech for anything they want and do not order as a matter of right? Why do they seem quite vulnerable? Believe it or not, we hurt them knowingly or unknowingly.
All such grieves combine and put a big question mark on those who neglect to look after their parents on their needy hours, who fail to perform their obligation not to treat their parents cruelly. We can say that the standard of living has certainly raised in many facets but the quality of relationships has also degraded unquestionably. The human sprint of getting rich and to develop our collective thought towards society, beliefs, ideas, tastes, and perceptions have also made us reckless and fake.
We are ready to spend hours on irrelevant things but when it comes to sit with parents for a while only and listen to their urges, we don’t do it with love but we do as if we are bound to do. Is it correct to say that we often forget the fact that we are educated and able to conquer the world is because of our parent’s love and support? When the shivering hands and old eyes hope for their only strong weapon i.e. children, to hold them, the only thing which they seek is attention and care in both ways i.e. physical and emotional, we are completely lost, rapt and absorbed in our world and we blame them for our actions and inaction which is quite pejorative.
I am very fortunate to have my parents the way they are. I never intend to change them to walk along. I also pray and hope that the day would come when they will be proud to have me standing by their side at all times no matter what. I only hope that this article has touched you and has reminded you to give some time with the most important persons of your life, treat them with dignity and utmost care. Also, share your petty things and experiences with them as they may not be able to go out every time with us but they surely wait for you to narrate them your story of the day. Pay heed before they are no more and you are out of the chance to serve them well. Because the regret would be just an otiose and nothing else at that time.
I would also like to mention here that This article is not meant to hurt one’s feeling and sentiments. It is just an inference drawn from the situations we usually watch in media or news and also see into one’s daily life. we can deny the fact that it is based on conjecture and surmises, else there wouldn’t have been family disputes in abundance into the courts. It is merely the personal thoughts and expressions for a good cause which I have tried to summarize in short and it does not wish to form any biased opinion and the expressed views are not completely adamant. The stand of the audience is always welcome to be considered.
Ajay Sharma
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It’s so amazing to read your article. your optimistic thoughts show your courtesy and you delineated the actual reality. After reading this, it will help more to connect with the parents.♥️👍
Thnx Rahul for your comments.
I think i could serve my purpose.
Well said Ajay I agree on some point but my reason is funny to not make eye contact with my parents it was an incident when i was in 11th standard and every evening i go to my street’s corner where hari burger made delicious burger and Neha also there for burger once my mother noticed me and she arrive after me and neha also there and asked me aaj bhi burger kha k chale jaoge ya kahi or chale and my mom was just behid me said ye ghar p ja k bolega . That is my last day at that burger stall and even im not able to make eye contact with my mom. 😄
But thanx to your artical which memories things which bring smile on my face thanx once again.